FOR MEN: HOW TO DEAL WITH A NAGGING SPOUSE…
According to a proverb- It is better to live in a corner on the housetop, than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Do you sometimes feel the same? Has your lovely spouse changed into a condescending nag? Do you want that warmth back in your relationship that you had till a few years back?
If you are tired of the gasping and sighing, and all the criticism that your spouse heaps on you, then you are on just the right page! So read on to make your life much better as we bring to you some practical tips, to deal with your nagging spouse.
#1. Stay calm
A lovely spouse transforming into a nagging one can happen either gradually or overnight. Accept the fact, and try to adjust your attitude. If she seems to be getting really hyper, then you simply be calm and composed to accommodate this new ‘bad’ habit of your spouse. When she starts with her list of complaints or instructions, simply kiss her affectionately and try to divert her attention. Over the time, she will ease down too.
#2. Surprise her
Derail all her arguments with a sudden and unexpected act of kindness. In fact, any nice gesture from you during this irritated time would be unexpected for her. Bring her flowers, get her movie tickets, take her out for candle light dinner, or simply make some iced tea for her. Do something so romantic and out of character, that she will suddenly forget all the complaints.
#3. Talk to her about appreciating differences
It is a fact that nobody is perfect. So, whenever your wife starts nagging you about your bad habits, just tell her very calmly that she should understand that you are only human. You can and will try to change things that annoy her! Yet at the same time, once she calms down a bit, explain that even you would like some of her ways to change. Keep in mind that the self-esteem of many women is more fragile than a porcelain cat, so be very tactful while telling her all these points.
#4. Don’t take every little thing to heart
Sometimes an off-handed comment feels like a nag or a criticism, when it actually might not be so. Instead of giving instant reactions to her, remember to pause and think. Ask yourself whether she meant anything negative by the comment she made.
#5. Try to find solutions
Life is all a matter of perspective. Show your wife how lucky you both are to have each other. Try to appreciate her, and take a break to find some workable solutions to her problems. When she is in a better mood, just sit with her and see what you can do about your habits that bother her.
#6. Tell her to accept you
If she nags you about your habits, like working late, spending time with friends or your eating habits, then just explain to her that there are some things in your life that she has to accept, if she loves you. This is always better than arguing with her and getting into a fight. Just tell her to accept you with your faults, and trust us, she will eventually learn to ignore the things that annoy her.
#7. Take a break
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, remember? So, take a break from each other. Try to be away for a little while. You can plan a short getaway with your friends, or schedule an outstation business meeting. This will give you both enough time to value your relationship. So, during this break, just try to remember all those points. By the end of the break, you both will miss each other and you will forget the nagging soon. Giztzzz… mAdE t.V!